Holding a trauma can be an obstacle to achieving our goals and being happy. Anyone in your life can suffer a trauma, because of an event that affects you in a certain way and that constantly generates negative memories of fear, sadness or shame.
Time
A day, a week, a year...!
Of course you changed. You grew up while you were away. You learnt to think for yourself, make decisions, be responsible for your choices and accountable for the outcomes. It is called experience. While you were away, you also began to forge a path towards your dreams, discover your strengths, your true-life purpose... not the path others wanted you to take.
Deliberate Distorted Truths
There have possibly always been distortions of truth...
Consider the example of this international children's game.
Players form a line, and the first player comes up with a message and whispers it to the ear of the second and subsequent people in the line. When the last player is reached, they announce the message they heard to the entire group. The first person then compares the original message with the final version.
Love Happens
There is a mythology in our culture that love ‘just happens’.
We know this is a truth and a myth and for many, a quandary.
One thing I know.
When I hold a newborn babe and welcome babe to my world, I know that feeling as I whisper “I love you” to that little babe, I’m actually saying “I love the way I feel about me when I’m with you”.
Heal Memory
What your body craves is sleep. Deep restful sleep that is difficult to achieve when your thoughts are constantly filled with the anxiety to achieve, combined with the fear of failure. This torment hinders people from trusting their self, they know they are intelligent but their anxiety causes their neurochemistry to become imbalanced.
Directing Change
Healing Ancestral Wounds
Emotional wounds are the most common reasons that physical healing takes so long or fails to fully heal.
When we feel emotional or physical pain, there is a natural reaction to have someone or something to blame.
Where there's an inner wound that has festered, it becomes easy to lash out or have sudden outbursts of anger, hate and resentment.
Abuse, Stop It
People are abusive because they have a subconscious memory or a genetic pattern that shards off like a firecracker or the opposite, the silent treatment is the weapon. People stay in abusive relationships because their self esteem is confused or so battered they lack direction or the ability to make decisions.
Sarcasm Is Dangerous
Psychological scars are hard to identify. People with painful scars from abusive relationships come to me almost everyday – the basis of ‘lacking confidence and anxiety’ is often founded in psychological scars. Its not just in the school playground or workplace that bullying happens, it happens in the so-called, ‘love and security’ of relationships, in a minority of cases some are self-inflicted. With or without alcohol stimuli, it happens.
