Deliberate Distorted Truths

There have possibly always been distortions of truth...

Consider the example of this international children's game.

Players form a line, and the first player comes up with a message and whispers it to the ear of the second and subsequent people in the line. When the last player is reached, they announce the message they heard to the entire group. The first person then compares the original message with the final version.

Although the objective is to pass around the message without it becoming garbled along the way, part of the enjoyment is that, regardless, this usually ends up happening.

Errors accumulate in the retellings, so the statement announced by the last player differs significantly from that of the first player, usually with amusing or humorous effect.

Reasons for changes include anxiousness or impatience, erroneous corrections, the difficult-to-understand mechanism of whispering,.. And that some players ‘deliberately alter’ what is being said to guarantee a changed message by the end of the line.

This happens in real life – it’s cruel, and is created by a cold malicious heart.

A Human Behaviour Specialist, with more than thirty years experience, I have clients from all walks of life going through stressful times because of the truth being deliberately distorted against them.

Many of my clients are in high positions of leadership, including cultural elders.

Having the truth distorted against them is a human cruelty.

Distorted truth, becomes ‘hearsay’, this tittle-tattle is created by people of perceived authority, and is passed from person to person in the community. It appears to be the truth, because of who it was originally concocted by.

It happens in the workplace, it happens in families and community.

Distorted truth becomes malignant gossip, these lies, are growing factors to emotional suffering, which too often is resulting in suicide. It is vital to know and live the truth.


A contributing factor to why I wrote the “Masterclass, Getting The Love You Want” is this frequently asked question!

How to create change!

  • Always seek truth.

  • Fully know what the truth is.

  • Ask better questions – seek clarity.

  • Don’t ask the story-teller - Ask the key person/people.

  • Stop bullying.

There have possibly always been distortions of truth... for us to instigate CHANGE, always be truthful. Truthful GOOD HABITS come from our VALUES.

VALUES are the guiding principles people of truth live their life by.

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– when self-respect is low, personal truth is already distorted.


– when compassion is missing, self-passion, self-indulgence becomes obsessive.


– when the human spirit is devoid of heart-centred kindness, respect is missing.

When respect is missing people ‘pretend’ to be kind but are actually seeking emotional

insight to distort and add to their mischief making stories.

You choose your thoughts ensure they truthfully align with your values.

As a Suicide Prevention approach, question the messenger, if it sounds like someone along the line has distorted the truth – they probably have. Always-Seek-Truth. A Human Behaviour Specialist, Sylvia Marina has committed her life to the discovery of what depletes the human spirit. In her workshops she generously gives you tools to create and live the life you desire.