“The best way to enjoy your life is to stop comparing it to others”. ~ Sylvia Marina
The most destructive attitude in relationships is that of comparing. Comparing our-self, our children, our status, with another is a base element to low self esteem. Whether in thought, word or deed, comparisons are cruel and destructive. In relationship accept your partner as they are, not as you wish them to be.
Release Burdensome Burdens:
“There is nothing quite so useless as doing with great efficiency, something that should never be done at all.” – Peter Drucker
Worry is a useless burden. We each have times in our life when we have concerns that have the ability to occupy our every waking hour and then harass our thoughts and keep us awake when we wish we were sleeping.
In the past I have had clients who are so conditioned to worry that when I speak to them about de-conditioning themselves it seems impossible.
It is possible that seeds of negativity are sown into our subconscious without our conscious awareness. And for us to overcome the habit of living our programmed self, the first step is to recognise we are being programmed and stop that process.
Because of the constant struggle against useless, impractical burdens, many people have even left their homes in search of freedom.
An example: in our house Mother used the expression ‘take your umbrella or you will get wet.’ and 'Don’t sit on the grass or you will get piles'...piles of what? I later learned that was her word for haemorrhoids. And that thing about not having holes in your undies, in case you have to go to hospital...and 'Don’t go out in the rain, you’ll get sick again'. I say, ‘take your umbrella and keep dry.”
Burdensome ideologies are passed from generation to generation, stories and expressions that are not relevant in today’s world but are often so ingrained that they have become what I call a useless burden. Trauma and the fear of trauma passed through family lines is very real.
It’s an unnecessary burden to be constantly filtering non-essential words and statements. Don't label what happens as bad. Then you won't need to consciously be doing positive thinking and much of the stress in your life will simply disappear.
Each day be vibrantly alive and brimming with love, passion, dreams and visions. Live each day happier that you have ever been. Be radiant, be the one that is transparently leading you to fulfilment in many dimensions, career, relationships, spiritual development… everyday evolving your future.
SYLVIA MARINA
Speaker, Author, Educator, Mentor. Healing Intergenerational Trauma & Cultural Wounds
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