Unconditional love does it really exist?
On certain levels of our human-being-ness I’m sure our intent is that unconditional love exists…but let’s be real.
Restless nights and childhood terrors, why did these evolve? What stimulates inherited memory.
Perhaps from the authoritative voice, the voice that said "I love you" and also said…"I’ll be happy when... when you tidy your room, when you pick up your toys, when you do the dishes, when you be quiet, when you go to sleep, when you leave home. " In my own parenting I know I didn’t always 'get-it-right'.
Throughout my professional life I was often alarmed as I listened to words and the tone of words infused into the lives of children who were our next generation adults. Frustrated, tired parents were feeling failure and hoping the therapist can fix the problem because their love and patience is exhausted.
Within the sacred walls of “home” many children hope and wish to be safe, and spend hours trying to please, trying to be perfect, to gain approval. The outcome of these 'learnings' has led to many adults staying in abusive relationships in the home, at work, in sport, socially… always hoping for approval and acceptance.
When we truly know what love is, when we are at peace in our masculine and feminine, when our heart and soul is in harmony, then the deep inner energy of self-love is reflected in our walk, our talk actions and daily-being-ness. Ask yourself - what is love? When this question goes deep - into the core of your being, you can know unconditional love.
Unconditional love starts with self-respect, self-honouring behaviour, in public and behind closed doors. Accepting nothing less than pure respect.
Unconditional love is not some-days, it is everyday, one hundred percent, love without conditions – can you do it?
Watch your thoughts they become words.
Watch your words they become actions.
Watch your actions they become habits.
Watch your habits they become character.
Watch your character it becomes your destiny.
Lao Tzu
Sylvia Marina