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LIVING IN HARMONY

Sylvia Marina - Saturday, August 09, 2014

LIVING IN HARMONY written by Sylvia Marina

Our society has often taught us to value others and to devalue ourselves. Yet this doesn't work for the betterment of all society. 
 

Unless we truly value ourselves, we're always looking to others for our sense of value or approval.   Consequently, this usually entails trying to manipulate them into "loving" us in some way in order for us to gain a sense of self-appreciation. 

Manipulation and control are always detrimental to relationships.  Needing the approval of others leaves our self-worth in someone else's hands.

Every interpersonal relationship is different and there is no single answer to living in harmony.

Here are eight simple tips for building great relationships.

Avoid negative talk. Relationships are often affected by the opinions and prejudice of others. Understand everyone is different, we each bring our personal and ancestral values and likes, options and dislikes and it is the responsibility of each person to focus on the positives that will help build a quality relationship.

Communicate. Keep in touch with each other’s needs. If you feel your partner or other is encroaching on your space, or making new rules, it's up to you to relay that information directly regarding the situation.

 

Deal effectively with advice, but not intrusion. When the advice is unwanted and unwelcome, just thank who-ever for their input. If appropriate indicate that your family/situation has to do what works t this point in time.

Set Limits. Some topics or rituals are out of bounds i.e. politics, sports, religion, philosophies, environmental concerns. Communication is the key.

Stay civil, no matter what. Don't let another divide you from your inner peace or become an obstacle in your relationship. Be civil and respectful when you need another to back off.

Gratitude
Always show gratitude with a positive thanks. Be aware of your words and tone and body language. Gratitude is not only saying thank you it is an attitude of gratefulness.

Overlook the little irritants. Relationships are clearly built on hundreds of little things, positive or negative. it is not usually one big thing that disrupts or damages a relationship. When there are little habits or things that irritate you or create times when you might want to roll your eyes, try to let them go. After all, there are probably things you do that seem unusual or irritating to them too.

Be Kind. Offer assistance. The older generation as with our youth has to deal with many issues you might not have encountered in your life. They may have lost a spouse or child or face declining health, the youth is coping with life changes. These new situations can present new difficulties. Be kind, ask what resource he/she requires.


Never assume.  Clear and simple, kind communication is key.


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