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EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS ABUSE

Sylvia Marina - Monday, October 05, 2015

EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS ABUSE. Written by Sylvia Marina ND.


I want you to think for a moment... when you do something silly, burn the dinner, forget where you put something, forgot an important appointment even though you had noticed it in your diary earlier in the day...  


What were the exact words you said to yourself?


Were they sweet, forgiving and understanding or did you berate yourself and use words that you wouldn’t articulate to another but it is okay to say emotional cruelties to yourself. 


Please, please, please remember this, Emotional Abuse IS Abuse no matter where it happens from. We don’t usually think about the way we speak to our inner self but there is a constant chatter happening between the brain memory, cells, organs, muscle memories, the conscious and subconscious memory and the hidden ancestral memories.

If any or all of these centres are programmed for silly talk, abusive talk or actions, then when they happen in relationships initially we accept them as normal behaviour.


It is only when the behaviour becomes ‘overwhelm’ that we begin to consider...what started it, or when did all this begin?


What were the possible triggers? Probably it began when we were young and impressionable, sensitive and trying to do and be perfect – often our efforts were not ‘good enough’ for either our-self or those of authority, (parents, siblings, family friends, teachers). If they said we were useless, stupid, and irresponsible and they were the authority, soon we believed them. And here is what I have seen happen, very soon we didn’t wait for someone to tell us we were useless, stupid, and irresponsible, it became so ingrained, we told it to our self.


Many have duplicated this behaviour until they totally believe at a subconscious and cellular level they are unworthy of being loved or loveable. A compounding debilitating factor is often embedded in their DNA code whereby they have an internal drive for financial gain and status and reject intimate relationships for fear of doing wrong again.


Sadly, driven by an inner voice that reminds them constantly of their self worth and wretchedly their internal voice gets louder and louder till it is the only voice they believe.


Many may wonder why I spent years creating the program “Getting The Love You Want” I didn’t want it to be ‘just another program’ I needed to ensure its design actually changed deeply embedded behaviour. Clients were constantly bringing me their tears of anguish, not realising those who were responsible for setting up the pattern of behaviour were often no longer on earth but my clients before seeking my help, were still replaying the actions and deeply ingrained self abusive language. “Getting The Love You Want” workshop has proven to bring change to all who have participated.


Don't settle for emotional abuse thinking it is okay because it is not physical. Emotional Abuse IS Abuse whether from internal or external sources.


You can change. For some it is not easy making change but the lightness that happens within ones purpose and spirit, reflects the joy that happens as we learn and experience the healing depths of learning how to Get The Love and Life You Want.


2015© Sylvia Marina ND., 

THE HUMAN BEHAVIOUR SPECIALIST | SPEAKER | AUTHOR 


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