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YOU WERE MEANT TO DO SOMETHING

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

YOU WERE MEANT TO DO SOMETHING! written by Sylvia Marina 

Do you sometimes get that feeling that you were born to do something...but not sure what? 

Before another precious hour or week of time is lost lets tackle head-on the frustrations creative minds face. 

Do you have too many “good” ideas and a lack of follow through, feeling alone, periods of self-doubt about next steps, inadequate personal growth to keep up with the ever flowing excitement and frustration of ideas, inconsistent cash flow and not enough time to do it all.

To many who have frustration happening, not just now but over a long period of time – too many good ideas and lack of follow through. 

Here’s what I see happening in the precious lives of creative minds –

  • many become social introverts
  • they develop social muteness
  • frustration develops into anger
  • anger unexpressed leads to depression 

Fear of social judgment cripples creative minds.

Crippled creative minds becomes a frustrated mind.

Frustrations yearn to be expressed – after the striving and cajoling, feelings of hopelessness - unexpressed creativity continues to develop in the mind in the form of pictures, self talk, self chatter till inner persuasions begin toying with words like useless, hopeless, not good enough, and another hodge-podge (I could use the proper word, collage) of stories begin to develop.

Unexpressed emotions, unexpressed creativity leads to frustration.

Instead of frustration, how would it be to “dare greatly”?
For me and possibly parts of you, this means “armoring up”, being willing to face uncertainty, risk emotional exposure! Yes, risk...
Basically, everything that gets in the way of you doing what you were meant to do.

And as I write the words of an unknown author touches my creative mind this morning –

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach for another is to risk involvement.
To expose your ideas, your dreams,
before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To believe is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the
greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The people who risk nothing, do nothing,
have nothing, are nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow,
but they cannot learn, feel, change,
grow, love, live.
Chained by their attitudes they are slaves;
they have forfeited their freedom.
Only a person who risks is free. 

So this morning dear friends, rather than shape another day, another week, another grave picture of not good enough. Rather than allow creative shyness, social muteness, frustration and perceived societal expectations to prison you in a façade of exaggerated or under-achiever expectations of others...

Armor up and live, truly fully, deeply madly...LIVE.

2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
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STOP COMPROMISE

Thursday, May 07, 2015

STOP COMPROMISE written by Sylvia Marina

Most people, compromise their self to varying degrees on a daily basis just to “keep the peace” and to avoid confrontation.

If we look at ourselves honestly most will see that we often don’t honor and value what we truly think, feel, want and need, because we’re afraid to or we don’t know how to or, and here’s the big one, we don’t feel that we deserve.

One of the hardest lessons to learn in life is how to have your needs met, while at the same time being loving, compassionate and willing to engage in give and take. If you use compromise to avoid these intimate relationship lessons, you are perpetuating an unhealthy dynamic that will destroy you and your relationships leaving you empty, lonely, sad and alone.

For those who never learnt to love their self, they continue to carry feelings that relate to inadequate, insecure, underserving and unworthy of love, constantly feeling abandoned. Unaddressed this leads to self-abandonment, betraying the self and attracting more situations and relationships where you feel used, unappreciated, worthless, undervalued and unworthy to those around as well as to yourself.

Unresolved this leads to self-loathing, separation and depression.

When people are faced with losing someone or something that they are desperate to keep they begin compromising to keep the relationship, career or business in an unhealthy way.

Too many grew up accepting that to have ones needs met, they must give up something in return. That’s unhealthy compromise.

In intimate relationships, when does the act of compromising begin to have negative effect? It’s when you close off, are weak, mute and-or unable to express your needs in a healthy manner. It’s when you lose your identity and become the shadow of another or situation.

In my professional work, I see many who compromise their self in almost every relationship because of an unconscious belief that in order to be supported and accepted, attended to and approved of, they must always please.

I’ve seen compromise being used as a substitute to have the other person or party think they are trying and self-sacrificing when actually they are manipulating to their own advantage. If you are using compromise as a tool to win, be seen as the good person, to win a battle or be the dominant one in a competitive type relationship, then it must end.

Often these patterns were set-up in childhood, sometimes carried on a paternal or maternal genetic DNA code. Consequently, the constant compromising and put-downs sabotage our freedom, depriving us of true happiness, natural wellness and joyful abundance.

Here is what I have seen happen.
Not until people allow someone else to treat them horribly to the point they feel worthless or valueless that they realize their approach to their self and their life needs to change.

Why wait until...have the courage to change now.

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REALIGN WITH YOUR PASSION

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

REALIGN WITH YOUR PASSION written by Sylvia Marina

You know that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you help someone solve a problem. What if that feeling was yours each and every day?

What if you decided to applaud yourself every time you...
  • did something right?
  • you were productive!
  • managed peak hour traffic without impatience or anxiety!
  • accomplished a tricky piece of music without berating yourself.
  • experienced a unity and peace within your self, during episodes that usually cause dis-stress.

What if that warm fuzzy feeling was with you always?
That feeling when you know you are appreciated, respected, engaged?
The knowing you are someone else’s first choice – remember when you went for an employment interview and you were the chosen one!

From the pit of your belly that lion roar of self-appreciation that happened – how long did it last?
Forever! Ordinarily it lasts until the first disappointment or in the case of a lion, until it is physically of sexually hungry again.

We however, are not the Lion. We do have many stealthy human characteristics to our lives and it is these learnt and inherited hidden imprints that whisper to often – be humble, less prosperity, less abundance, less warm fuzzys, don’t speak your truth... say what the people want to hear!
This behaviour does not honour the self, it needs a realignment.

Recent days people have sought my skill in helping them to find a way out of the mire and into a place of self appreciation, self love, an emotional thicker skin, a way to combine all the skills into a package that brings to the workplace and the world of business the best of Self, the best of your Intellects, Emotional Resilience and Tenacity.

A dear colleague whose energy, honesty and work I highly admire sought my professional help. She brought an aching heart and a faint picture of how she could bring her gifts of passion, love and leadership to the aching hearts of men and women.

How many of you reading this and thinking – that’s me. You know you have a hearts desire that you have not accomplished yet. Do not think it is not possible – it is and I would love to hear from you.

No matter where in the world you are, share your desire, your story with me and I will help you find a way to manifest your heart’s desire.

Realigned with her purpose, my colleague left my office with a smile in her eyes – the previously fading light in her soul had flicked the switch to full beam, she had reclaimed her power,

What if this was you?  It can be!

2015©
Sylvia Marina ND., 

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BE BRILLIANT

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

BE BRILLIANT written by Sylvia Marina 

Inside each of us is a beautiful place waiting, waiting to be allowed, waiting for permission, waiting for the light switch to be turned, on. 

Many were brought up in horrid circumstances others had hard-to-endure periods of adult life and many are still living with the method that helped them to manage those times and now, gripped by fear of what the new future may hold, don’t know or are tentative about how to approach that future. 

They desire to take their place in the weave of the universe, but...where to begin, which thread to use first. When we see each of those threads as a strand of our own DNA waiting, waiting to be unraveled, waiting to be useful, ready to take it’s place in your tapestry, called life. 

Only a thought away and life can be brilliantly different. 

From the musical TIME: ‘Your life is an expression of your mind. You are the creator of your own Universe, for as a human being you are "free to will" whatever state of being you desire through the use of your thoughts and words.’ 

When we see ourselves as the creator of our universe, it takes the burden off disappointment and failure. We begin to view change as normal in nature, and perfectly normal in our life too. Life is periods of seasons and within each of the seasons cycles of change happen. 

For nature each season is perfect whether it be drought, flooding rains, fire or pestilence, nature finds a way to survive, revive and re-flourish. 

Remember, the chemistry of our blood is changed moment by moment by our thinking, our choices affect our chemistry, indecisive thinking causes stress within our body turning good cells off and bad cells on. A short period of indecisive or negative thinking gives the body the capacity to change the physical body from vibrancy to fatigue and dis-ease.
Short time optimistic energy brings new choice. For long-term vibrancy and new life – it all begins with thought.
 

“Thought is a vehicle in which we roll out our lives, it’s a gift, and a freedom, which we can use to create any craving we want, so we might as well create a craving for life, and for the pursuit of letting silly habits go, for good.” ~ Bryan Ryan. 

Inside each of us is a beautiful place waiting, waiting to be allowed, waiting for permission, waiting for the light switch to be turned, on. Is it time to look in the mirror and truthfully say, “be who you truly are, let go of shyness, let go of the need to be perfect, let go of fear, let go of the idea of what others may think, bring out the vibrant colours of all your intelligences and be brilliant”.

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SELF WORTH

Saturday, April 04, 2015

SELF WORTH. Written by Sylvia Marina

Do you personally feel an equally treasured part of society?

Perhaps not in so many words, but the subject of worth, worthiness, value, and validity come up time and again.

Have you ever considered your worth?

Building your self worth is fundamental to bringing meaning and achieving real purpose in your life. It often means having the courage to be vulnerable to emotional exposure.

What would you be like if you started today
to make the most of the rest of your life?
If you turned a corner and awoke! ~ Jean Houston

To be truly successful in life we must move past what society attempts to depict about what it means to have succeeded, and create our own definition of success based on the human qualities and virtues that we each value most.

It is critical for your spiritual, emotional and mental health to understand your true worth, your inner value. 

Your sanity and sense of wellbeing depends on it.

Self worth has in many societies its foundation in appearances, material possessions, career, marital status, physical appearance etc. Unwittingly excessive value on outward appearances is used to determine self worth. Too often little consideration is given to the loftier values of a person, emotional and spiritual intelligence, integrity, kind-heartedness.

When you realize your innate worth, you will naturally strive to understand and fulfill your potential. You will stop your concern of what others think or say or their expectations of you. 

You will:

  •  be the director of your own destiny
  •  exude confidence in yourself
  •  discover your true happiness 

Making it your goal to inwardly live and outwardly display the human qualities and virtues you most value and admire. As a consequence you will find material matters and appearances no longer define you, rather that which seemed so far from your reach begins flowing freely towards you.

This is what it means to succeed your way.

Steeped in your own Self Worth values, you begin living authentically. 

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BELONGING

Monday, March 23, 2015

BELONGING
Outside on the back patio, three generations of family enjoying conversation, together, just being!

This is what it means to connect, to belong.

You must look past your flaws and frustrations and have faith that within you is everything you need to succeed, your strengths and gifts, intelligences and joy – perhaps you just need to
find a way to connect?

I love these times. The moment when a drop of water sneaks out the eye... a splash of gratitude, a trickle of love, a heartfelt moment of overwhelm.                                                            

And then... in my mind I momentarily transported my thoughts to another time when a blob of teardrops fell out my eyes for a different reason, the feeling of no-where to belong.

Growing up between two cultures there were incommunicable differences that demonstrated to me ‘I was an outsider’. A re-occurring childhood feeling of no-where to belong!
A horrid conflict that troubled me for years.

I’ve learnt, people do not have to be an outsider to be yearning love and experiencing separation.

Never lose sight of your purpose.
Remember, the tallest oak in the forest was
a little oak that held it’s ground.

I clearly remember the day I became aware that my past was a gift.

There were some moments when I connected when I knew the experience of belonging – it’s just so much of my years were spent ‘trying’. Was it like that for you too?

Trying to fit in, trying to be what others wanted me to be...that was most everyone except for, yes there were those....they loved me and maybe others did too but to know love one has to feel it in your heart and in your gut.

I confess, I didn’t know it at the time (there’s so much to learn and know when you are young), but I do now...to ‘belong’ is a basic need. Possibly in the minds of many I did belong, I just didn’t feel it and because I didn’t feel included, I thought I didn’t belong!

A thought is harmless, until we believe it! ~ Byron Katie.

It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that cause suffering.

To know you belong is sacred.

Feeling nature, breathing her air, sensing and living her changes.
Watching the marvelous-ness of the night sky, sensing the early morning stirrings and witnessing the day activities till evening calls to rest. The cycle of nature, the cycle of life – it’s sacred.

Surrender to the sacred – it’s a great place to belong.
 
2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
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WORDS ARE ENERGY

Sunday, March 01, 2015

WORDS ARE ENERGY…  written by Sylvia Marina

In a seminar I was presenting recently, at the tea break I noticed one of the participants reading a book from my library, and smiled as I recalled some of the words between the pages and in the days since that moment every time I walk past this collection of books I smile as I recall authors…Louise Hay, Bob Proctor, Richard Bach, Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen Catherine Ponder, Norman Doidge…and dozens more…

This corner book stand is cover to cover, page upon page of personal growth teachers experience. For many years these books were stacked at the top of my bed, on the bedside table, on the floor and under my bed too - oh and the book…Long Walk To Freedom, Nelson Mandella!..it was there too, so many books with meaning.

No wonder I often woke tired and weary - so much chatter happening within those pages!!! I was always hungry to learn.

Here’s what I discovered! This great library and the hundreds of books I have let-go so others too can learn - they are just words, until we activate them into our own living experience.

There are times when we read for entertainment or relaxation, we read to learn and often whilst reading we begin comparing our life, our experience and journey to that of another. Sometimes that inspires.

The real value is when our reading inspires us to action. When it moves us to action, from one emotional awareness to another and we begin to change - change our thoughts, change our language, change the way we think about our-self, the way we move, feel, energise and inspire our self toward, self change, self growth and self mastery.

Words are energy. Energy in action creates change. Positive energy in action creates permanent change.

When the words we hear, the words we read, are put into positive action our lives change and we become a better person. Remember, a book is created word upon word, page by page. Personal growth happens moment by moment through thought and action, inspiring us to Self Mastery.

Many ask, how do we know when self mastery is reached? Or they ask…how will I know if I am achieving self-mastery.

Self Mastery is about self actualisation more simply put, is a deep form of self-discovery, self-realisation, self-exploration - such is the journey of self-discovery into the entelechy of our unique and individual DNA.

Entelechy is the word that Aristotle used to describe higher guidance and purpose. It is the vital force that activates the acorn to become the oak tree. Entelechy - transforms our highest potential to living reality.

How will you know that self growth, self mastery is happening for you? You’ll begin to know the experience of love and self love, and deep inner-peace. You’ll be less interested in comparing and more interested in connectedness.

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ARE YOU THERE YET?

Monday, February 09, 2015

ARE YOU THERE YET?  written by Sylvia Marina

A few days ago driving to the seaside town of Rockingham, a little voice from the back seat asks…are we there yet? I remember when my children did that and when I was young us kids said those very same words…are we there yet?
Possibly every child has asked that question!

Perhaps on many levels of self-growth we still do ask that same question – Are we there yet?

How often in the journey of life do you look in your mirror and question yourself…

  • Are You Living Your Dream or Just Dreaming?
  • Are You Being Your Authentic Self?
  • Are You Being Who Others Expect You To Be?
  • Are You Looking For A Role Model?
  • Are You Looking For Someone To Tell You….
    How To DO Your Life?

The real question is, how do we stop being who we genuinely aren’t.
How do we relieve our-self of the false fronts of people pleasing.
How do we stop the obsessive need for place and power?

Instead of secretly asking ‘am I there yet’.
Stop comparing and agonizing where you think you are at.
Stop comparing with where you perceive another to be on the ‘social or career, spiritual awakening, self-growth emotional development’.

If you have this behaviour…It’s well past time to break out of your emotional Spandex that keeps you contained, insignificantly and small.

Contained within the emotional Spandex your ‘big picture’ dream/vision can-not eventuate. Women in history wore tightly laced-up under-garments – living to the expectations of society, living to please others.

Perhaps it feels like a safe place to be! While you stay squished in that little space you’ll remain the dreamer…that is if ‘in-there’ there’s room to dream! OR you can break-out and start having fun, being genuine, being your authentic self whilst delivering your gifts and talents to the world – just by being your authentic self!

Replace fear with calm and certainty.
Learn that all challenges contain hidden treasures.
Live a life that matters. Live a life of meaning.
You have a purpose, connect to your true purpose – if you need a guide, choose me…
You will learn a new depth of inner happiness and a freedom…
inner joy and a ‘beyond words inner peace’.
 
2015© Sylvia Marina ND., EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER E:   info@sylviamarina.com | W: www.sylviamarina.com
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NOW IS A GOOD TIME

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

NOW IS A GOOD TIME?  written by Sylvia Marina

Hugh Laurie said….“It's a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you're ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.” … and I agree.

This weekend I was totally in the moment, fully enjoying presenting class to people who were eager to make change in their life. It’s not for the faint hearted we decided but it is for those who are ready to embrace new!

The age old wisdom book states examples in nature, there is a time to sow and a time to reap, a time when the seed is ready to become the plant, a time when the future calls “now”, a time when an idea, a dream, a yearning desire is ripe for activation.

Getting started is what stops people from fulfilling their heart desires, emotional desires, relationship and intimacy desire.

The words private clients often tell say …

“life’s too hard”… meaning change is too hard.
“I don’t want to be on my own anymore” but I don’t know how to do or have different.

My relationship, career, business is okay but not fulfilling my emotional needs or desires.

It’s a risk to reach out for love, the new career, relationship, intimacy – the risk of rejection, the risk of more emotional pain and disappointment all the while living with pain, often painful crippling pain, afraid or not sure, scared or timid…

Friends, if afraid or not sure, scared or timid is stealing your dreams, holding you stuck or keeping you lonely, poor or fearing the future, you’ve a  ‘courage or know how’ deficiency.

Friends, if you are afraid or unsure, perhaps scared or timid emotions are stealing your dreams, or keeping you lonely, you are poor or fearing the future… any one of these and you are suffering from a  ‘courage or know how’ deficiency.

A life of stress and misery becomes a depressing choice.

Life is a series of choices, being free from stress is one of those choices.

  • Stop being constantly “on the prowl”
  • Stop gathering stuff
  • Stop hunting for the next thrill to fill the void!
  • Stop harboring an aching heart
  • Stop hiding behind excuses

Do an internal soul searching audit – discover what it is your soul desires? And… Do it. Do it now!

2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                             
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GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

Monday, January 05, 2015

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT. written by Sylvia Marina

Early morning I woke in a beautiful meditation with the voice of wisdom clearly stating…

‘This year is about Spiritual Integration and healing with profound results - connecting to love, power, passion like never before experienced. 

Dear friends, too many people are living in relationships that return little or no joy, they do work that fills their pockets with money but leave their hearts yearning for more and their soul empty.

In public life people put a smile on their face whilst enduring loneliness in their heart.

Mid year my husband David and & I went to New Zealand to visit with family and stayed a few extra days to go to my mountains and lakes in the South Island where I restored my soul and made life change decisions.

Sitting in the energy of Mt Cook, my maternal mountain in New Zealand, the energy of my ancestors were very real – the call to take my work to a higher-plane was very clear. With my mountain I wept many tears of sorrow, feelings of responsibility and also gratitude that I was being ‘called’ by spirit energy to guide people to “Getting The Love They Want”.

The past six months I have devoted enormous time and energy designing a totally new program, “Getting The Love You Want”. The techniques I engage in this program I have worked for many years with private clients but never publicly presented them.

It is everyone’s birth-right to feel loved and be worthy.

  • Worthy of Love
  • Worthy of Wealth and Prosperity
  • Worthy of Vitality
  • Worthy to Trust Love Again
  • Worthy to be Included
  • Worthy to be Loved and Cherished

Countless people live their lives carrying hidden barriers in their subconscious and genetic memory that silently holds them back from accessing and fulfilling their dreams or igniting their desires.

For many years of my life, I yearned to know love, to feel included, to be where I belonged… and now -

Everyday I am loved and every day, even when alone I feel that love. 

It is everyone’s birth-right to know love and that is why this week I am launching “Getting The Love You Want”.

Go here to reserve your place to “Getting The Love You Want” training.

2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
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